Eps 115: Solo show - Exploring trust and surrender as I navigate all there is to learn while raising a teen

Content: The tension of being a parent educator WHILE IN THE EXPERIENCE of parenting Parenting for the long term… Keeping in mind brain development Mistakes are opportunities for learning Everyone should have a voice Relationship matters Kindness, firmness and trust Bumps up against the mainstream idea of reward/punishment model My own experience of punishment/consequences as a teen Noticing the societal pressure of “she should pay for her mistakes” while also noticing that we have a really good relationship and are exploring her choices together All we can do is increase the likelihood that our children will grow to be responsible, respectful members of society In the process of learning to make choices, our children will make bad choices I know I am not alone in this rub We want our children to feel as though we are our safe harbor Surrender is so complex… or maybe just the depth is profound GRACE: workshop for women through boldlyembodylife.com If trust is our intention, then we have to start with trusting ourselves We then can evoke trust in our relationships Then our teens can lean into trusting themselves (and getting it wrong sometimes) The design of the universe is bigger than me, bigger than my child, and we are all going to be okay – might as well trust that God has our back Trusting what I don’t know, what I can’t know, what I am still on the path to understanding Fear grips the inside of my body, my energy tightens up – shorter breath, tight belly “When fear is present, the teacher is in the room.” – Krista Petty Raimer Events/ experiences are an invitation for me to evoke what I want more of in my relationship with my daughter Neutral/ Think Tree – feeling our feet, grounding into our body, top of our body is open, flexible, available Finding neutral is not about the absence of anything, but about the availability of everything (thank you Mary Jo!) Neutral allows space for relationship with our children The most powerful tool we have for influencing the behavior is the relationship we cultivate and nurture with them. Lisa Damour – swimming pool analogy There is flow and impermanence to the cycles of connection/disconnection that show up Find your people that are going through similar experience and hold a similar parenting style to share raw and vulnerably We are practicing all the time – either our auto pilot OR something new and different Being intentional allows us to GENERATE more of what we want into our life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices