Eps 148: Solo Show - Teasing Apart the External Parenting Experience from the Internal Experience

Solo Show – woop woop! It is all me today people, and I am so excited to be sharing some powerful thoughts and experiences with you today. Wading through our experience to support out children The writing process Going deeper into what parents can uncover/discover for themselves We have an external experience of raising kids – everything that happens outside of us We also are having an internal experience – the ways that our physical body feels, sensations, also the emotional experience that we are having, what gets brought up by the external stimuli External and internal are both happening at the same time Based on what our experiences have been in life, our relationships in life, we have a lens that we see the world out of Sometimes the internal response “works” for us We have a well wired survival system – amygdala – but our survival system isn’t always what is needed in our daily life The pendulum swing of raising/living with teens – everything is great until it is not, parents are the anchor that witness/hold space and it’s hard to remember that the behavior is a pendulum swing. Connect /loving vs dysregulation/discouragement We (parents) go into “fix it” mode Alternative – recognizing what is happening physically in my body, seeing what is happening for me, what is the lens I am looking out of? Fear – tension in the body – belly/jaw When kids feel discouraged, they tend to want to share the feeling with others Looking below the surface - the iceberg metaphor Episode 129 Episode 103 Episode 110 Today is a reminder that there is so much going on under the surface…. Curiosity as a guide AND it’s ok and important to recognize where you are at physically/emotionally and taking a pause to get yourself together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices