Eps 227: Problem Solving with Cynthia Klein

SUPER FAM My guest today is Cynthia Klein. Cynthia is an Educator, Coach, Speaker, and Author. Through her work, Cynthia helped parents of children from age five to 30. Through a strong desire to create a great relationship with her own child, Cynthia’s journey to developing herself as a parent began early on. By building Bridges 2 Understanding and cooperation rooted in mutual respect, she was able to achieve the connection she longed for with her teenage daughter. Cynthia understands the challenges of parenting and provides solutions that are unique, effective, individualized, and enduring. You can achieve results that will change the course of your relationship with your children and your family’s dynamic now and for generations to come. Cynthia’s education includes a B.A. in Psychology, Training and Human Resource Development Certificate, California and New Mexico teaching credentials, numerous parent education certificates, and life lessons gained from raising a successful daughter who values her mom’s opinion. Her book is titled, Ally Parenting: A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation. "It's all about still having your authority in your power, doing it in a way that is respectful.” “What do I feel, think or do differently to get a different response?” “You can’t control your children. You can only influence.”    What you’ll hear in this episode: The difference between hard and soft power and leadership and control Building a foundation to prepare for challenges ahead. When kids complain about limits Why it starts with changing yourself first Why you need to ask yourself who owns the problem Problem solving roles: director, collaborator, or supporter Building emotional connection first  Some of the ways that parents show up as adversaries in their relationship with their kids The think/feel/do cycle Moving past the victim mindset  What being a collaborator means  Timing your conversations  How to stop blocking communication The power of writing things down  What happens when we make assumptions vs approach with curiosity Helping your kids feel heard  Soliciting ideas in problem solving  Making a plan together and instituting a trial phase  What to do when your plan doesn’t roll out the way you expected  Using empathy to redirect    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices