EPISODE · Jan 9, 2026 · 47 MIN
Erotic Expression, Grief, and the Healing Power of Community with Z and Victor
from Deeper With Darshana · host Darshana Avila
In this episode, Darshana is joined by two friends and colleagues, Z and Victor, for a deeply relational conversation about erotic expression that makes room for the full spectrum of human experience.Together, they explore eroticism not only as pleasure or sexuality, but as aliveness that includes grief, loss, tenderness, rage, joy, and the importance of being witnessed in community. This conversation reflects the heart of Deeper with Darshana, moving slowly, honestly, and with care for what it means to feel deeply together.Rather than separating pleasure from pain, the three of them explore how erotic aliveness can hold both, and how community becomes essential when navigating the harder edges of being human.In this episode, we explore:Erotic expression as more than sex or pleasureWhy grief and hard feelings belong in erotic and embodied spacesHow aliveness includes joy, sorrow, and everything in betweenThe role of community in supporting emotional and erotic expressionWhy isolating our pain limits our capacity for pleasureThe importance of witnessing and being witnessedHow shared presence can deepen intimacy and trustWhat it means to practice erotic wholeness in relationshipAllowing complexity rather than striving for positivityLetting erotic energy move through grief rather than around itAbout the Z and VictorZ (aka Zahava Griss, they/them) is the founder of Embody More Love, a spiritual kinky dance community for personal & cultural liberation. Since 1999, Z has guided dance rituals to decolonize, heal, build intimacy, & make love out of what is not yet love. Z guides a 3 month immersion called Play with Power & Gender through Dance, dedicated to attachment & trauma informed kink. Z also created a Grief & Eros Film honoring the legacy of grief ritualist Sobonfu Somé.Victor Warring is an Erotic ReWilder, Somatic (body-centered) Sexuality Educator, Mentor, Coach and also an Erotic Activist. He is passionate about supporting people in discovering the truth of their erotic sovereignty and removing any self-imposed, internalized or socially imposed blocks that interfere with the expression of their erotic brilliance.Victor is also a diversity, equity and inclusion (DEI) educator and works with people in understanding the intersections where the body, sexuality, inclusion, oppression, racism, white supremacy and decolonization are interwoven. Connect with Z and VictorFind Z at www.EmbodyMoreLove.comFind Victor at https://www.rewilderos.com Instagram: @bonobo_manJoin the 4 Day Grief Eros Ritual in June 2026: https://www.embodymorelove.com/villageritualConnect with Darshana:DarshanaAvila.com/offeringsDarshanaAvila.com/communityYouTube.com/@darshana_avila
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In this episode, Darshana is joined by two friends and colleagues, Z and Victor, for a deeply relational conversation about erotic expression that makes room for the full spectrum of human experience.Together, they explore eroticism not only as pleasure or sexuality, but as aliveness that includes grief, loss, tenderness, rage, joy, and the importance of being witnessed in community. This conversation reflects the heart of Deeper with Darshana, moving slowly, honestly, and with care for what it means to feel deeply together.Rather than separating pleasure from pain, the three of them explore how erotic aliveness can hold both, and how community becomes essential when navigating the harder edges of being human.In this episode, we explore:Erotic expression as more than sex or pleasureWhy grief and hard feelings belong in erotic and embodied spacesHow aliveness includes joy, sorrow, and everything in betweenThe role of community in supporting emotional and erotic expressionWhy isolating our pain limits our capacity for pleasureThe importance of witnessing and being witnessedHow shared presence can deepen intimacy and trustWhat it means to practice erotic wholeness in relationshipAllowing complexity rather than striving for positivityLetting erotic energy move through grief rather than around itAbout the Z and VictorZ (aka Zahava Griss, they/them) is the founder of Embody More Love, a spiritual kinky dance community for personal & cultural liberation. Since 1999, Z has guided dance rituals to decolonize, heal, build intimacy, & make love out of what is not yet love. Z guides a 3 month immersion called Play with Power & Gender through Dance, dedicated to attachment & trauma informed kink. Z also created a Grief & Eros Film honoring the legacy of grief ritualist Sobonfu Somé.Victor Warring is an Erotic ReWilder, Somatic (body-centered) Sexuality Educator, Mentor, Coach and also an Erotic Activist. He is passionate about supporting people in discovering the truth of their erotic sovereignty and removing any self-imposed, internalized or socially imposed blocks that interfere with the expression of their erotic brilliance.Victor is also a diversity, equity and inclusion (DEI) educator and works with people in understanding the intersections where the body, sexuality, inclusion, oppression, racism, white supremacy and decolonization are interwoven. Connect with Z and VictorFind Z at www.EmbodyMoreLove.comFind Victor at https://www.rewilderos.com Instagram: @bonobo_manJoin the 4 Day Grief Eros Ritual in June 2026: https://www.embodymorelove.com/villageritualConnect with Darshana:DarshanaAvila.com/offeringsDarshanaAvila.com/communityYouTube.com/@darshana_avila
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