ERP 175: How to heal from an affair with Scott Woolley

In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins and Dr. Scott Woolley discuss:   Understanding the motivating factors of an affair and trusting it won't happen again.  The internal working models of attachment about who we are, who other people are, and how we relate to them.  The destructive impacts of taking revenge, public shaming, and waiting to make significant decisions.     Key Takeaways:   The three motivating factors for affairs are a reaction to what's going on or an attempt to change the relationship; protest or revenge; and relationship burnout.  When talking to your partner about their pain and you are expressing genuine remorse over the suffering they are experiencing, you are with them at a fundamental level, and that starts the healing process.  If people want to go through the process to save their relationship, it's possible, but it will take a lot of dedicated time and work for both partners, but it can be accomplished.       "Don't give up on healing your relationship; it's possible that your relationship can be better than it has ever been." - Scott Woolley       If you have a topic you would like me to discuss; please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!       If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.      Connect with Dr. Scott Woolley:   Website:   www.drscottwoolley.com     Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: [email protected]      Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.