ERP 189: How being "selfish" may be the best thing you do for your relationship – an interview with Dr. Laura Dabney

About Dr. Laura Dabney: Dr. Laura Dabney has been a psychiatrist in Virginia Beach, VA for almost twenty years and has treated patients in more than a dozen cities across Virginia. Her psychiatric expertise has been featured on radio, podcasts, websites and in print media. She received her MD from Eastern Virginia Medical School and has been Board Certified in Psychiatry. She has made a career of taking on psychiatry's toughest challenges all while ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, high-profile patients.     (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)     In this episode, Dr. Laura Dabney and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  How difficult it can be to identify our emotions.  How we make our emotions the enemy.  The three top emotions that we have trouble with.  How to change a destructive relationship pattern.  A template for expressing our emotions.  How to not accept any inappropriate behavior from your partner.  How to encourage change in your partner.  How to repair grief from past injury.   "If you change the pattern, the pattern has changed. You don't need two people in the room to change the pattern." —  Dr. Laura Dabney    Mentioned:  Instagram: @lauradabneycom   Facebook: Laura F. Dabney, MD Website: DrLDabney.com & LauraDabney.com Phone: 757-695-3925     Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:  Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com  Email: [email protected]    If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.   Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.   Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.   Thank you!    If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.