ERP 190: How to shift out of chaos in relationship – An Interview with Dr. Laura Louis

About Dr. Laura Louis: As a licensed psychologist, Dr. Laura Louis is a widely sought-after speaker specializing in helping couples press the reset button after infidelity. Her five-step training program, Marriage Matters, has helped couples reawaken their connection. Affectionately deemed the "Marriage Architect", Dr. Louis gives couples the tools to build their marriages.     (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)     In this episode, Dr. Laura Louis and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  Chaos takes us out of peace and into a place of conflict and stress. The importance of gaining insight into your issue before bringing it to your partner. How using a gentle start-up can set the conversation up well. Couple's therapy can bring an objective third party to guide a dialogue and bring tools to help solve something a couple can't solve themselves.  Having trusted advisors in your life that can help bring awareness to your part of the conflict that you may not initially see on your own.  "Acknowledgment and change silences criticism."  Timing is key when talking about an issue with your significant other.   Be mindful that your partner has a deep longing underneath their complaint.  Get in touch with how much your partner's happiness matters to you.   Learn strategies for creating healing conversations and being on the same page together.    "Try to hear the longing beyond the control and defensiveness." —  Dr. Laura Louis      Mentioned:   Facebook: Dr Laura Louis  Website: AtlantaCoupleTherapy.com & Dr.LauraLouis.com  Instagram: @dr.lauralouis  YouTube: Dr. Laura Louis  LinkedIn: Dr. Laura Louis, Ph.D.  The After I Do Academy        Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: [email protected]      If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.     Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.     Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.     Thank you!      If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.