ETR (Energy, Time, Resources)

Three things we bring to every relationship. Energy Time Resources Energy Definition - The strength and vitality required for sustained physical, emotional or mental activity.   Tailor your life to things that express and create passion. Be aware of obsessions and obligations. Synergy comes from energy. Rest is a big part of creating energy. Ask the question,  'Is this energy producing or energy draining?' Every yes is a no to something and every no is a yes to something else. Time By being intentional with our time we can direct the intensity of our relationships. When we set boundaries with our time we honor others and ourselves. Time is a language it is meant to help us with connection. It is not meant to create stress and obligation. (There's never enough time) This is a reflection of our priorities, the amount of time in a day.  Let's talk about our culture's relationship with time: Time is money. What time is it? How much time do we have left? Do you have time for this? Where did the time go? Spending quality time. Time Flys. Time waits for no one. I'm just killing time. Two words for time in the ancient Greek language Chronos - the kind of time measured by a ticking clock or turning the pages on a calendar. It is the time we use as we try to meet deadlines. We cite it in numbers. Kairos -  represents time in the moment that is opportune. It is mystical time that is experienced in festivals and fantasies and cannot be controlled or possessed.   giving everything into that moment and receiving everything it has to offer. It is here we are to be truly present, not rushing toward the next thing.  Are you present in your time.  It is important to determine where we want to be effective and where we want to be efficient. Effective in the inner relationships, efficient in the outer relationships. Every yes is a no and every no is a yes.  Time Budgeting: For awareness of where our time is going we encourage people to look at their time like they look at their budget. A couple of key components we can borrow from a healthy budget are: Know where our time goes. Pay ourselves first. What we do with our discretionary time is crucial. Invest in long term. The key is not spending time, it's investing in it. -Stephen Covey- Everyone has the same amount of time. 1440 minutes every day. And you get another 1440 every day but you have to spend it today.  By being intentional with our time we can direct the intensity of our relationships. When we set boundaries with our time we honor others and ourselves. We can serve time which sounds more like a prison sentence or allow time to serve us. Questions to Ask Self:  Do I know  where my time is going? How much do I pay myself first with my time every week? How am I spending my discretionary time? Who or what am investing in long term? If I were invest my 1440 minutes today, how would I spend them. Resources There are two types of resource, tangible and intangible. Tangible - Money, cars, houses,  Intangible - Personality traits, gifts, temperaments There are three categories of resources Status - Give us value in the appraisal of others Stress - Give pressure for ourselves and from others Service - Give us pleasure for ourselves and to others Explore what it is like to live a life where resources serve to grant pleasure instead of create pressure.  Pleasure for self to be shared for the pleasure of others.  Excess turns all gifts into curses Be present in the purchase.  Ask why? Do my relationships serve my resources or do my resources serve my relationships?