Every Decision Is a Choice

I realized something while cooking. I’m so used to fast food that when I cook for myself, I’ll keep the fire low for ten minutes, get impatient because the food isn’t done yet, then turn the heat all the way up and almost ruin it. And that hit me. That’s how a lot of us live. We want the result before the process has had time to work. We want the body before the discipline. The money before the financial habits. The relationship before the communication skills. The career before the reps. The audience before the craft. We keep trying to start at the finish line. This episode is about impatience, fear, rejection, sex, communication, faith, discipline, personal responsibility, and what it actually takes to stay sharp when life gives you an opportunity you weren’t prepared for. I tell the story of making money from Fantastic and Only Improving after exposing the brand on The Ellen DeGeneres Show and realizing I had a choice: use the opportunity to build something—or spend the money experiencing everything I felt like I had missed. I talk about why I wrote “Bad Guy” after realizing being overly nice isn’t the same as being effective, why friendliness can’t replace competence, and why sometimes the most loving thing you can do is stop making excuses for yourself. We also get into women and attraction. If you take sex completely off the table when approaching a woman, what’s actually left for you to talk about? Can you connect? Can you listen? Can you be curious? Can you communicate without needing the interaction to become something? Because there are going to be moments when you desperately need someone to talk to—and nobody will be immediately available. You better know how to communicate with other people. And you better know how to sit with yourself. This is ultimately about one question: Am I doing everything in my power to stay sharp?