Everyone needs help, with disability rights advocate Beth Poague

Beth Poague's life changed when she and her then-husband Jim learned that their youngest son Finn had a rare genetic disorder. Their pace of living shifted, they sought community with other families going through the same thing, and as Finn got older, Beth channeled her energy into advocating for changes to Beacon's schools on her son's behalf. First at JV Forrestal and later at Rombout Middle School, Beth pushed for — and got — more integrated classrooms and school activities that allowed kids with disabilities to learn alongside typical kids. She believes the work she and other parents did improved outcomes not only for their special needs kids but also for the "normal" kids.  "All of us get accommodated all the time, right?" she says in our interview. "I am wearing eyeglasses right now. That's an accommodation for my disability of my sight. But eyeglasses are seen as something normal, so we don't ever think of it as an accommodation. But accommodations for disability are all over the place. Every single one of us needs help. This idea that we're supposed to muscle through everything and pick ourselves up by our bootstraps and be independent and not need anything from anybody is harming all of us." Also in this episode, Beth talks about the Wheel of Consent, a system for identifying and communicating needs for the purpose of clear communication, healthy boundaries and personal empowerment. Beth teaches classes and facilitates workshops about the Wheel of Consent. More on her website at BethPoague.com.