Exploring Nonbinary Identity and Queer Masculinity with Kelz

Send us Fan MailMany times when we hear or read the phrase soul mate, we think of it in a very romantic way. But, soul mate relationships can be platonic. They can be found in friendships that love us down and encourage us to be our full selves. And, in this Dem Bois Podcast first, I sit down with Kelz and we discuss what that term actually means. In this conversation, we dive into critical analysis, identity, and the significance of friendship and community. And, Kelz emphasizes the importance of visibility in queer narratives and the personal nature of identity language. They also recite a really great poem at the end of the episode, so be sure to listen!We talk:09:07 Exploring gender identity and fluidity18:04 The significance of the term 'stud' and class privilege26:08 Understanding non-binary identities34:58 Kelz work, 'we was boys together'45:55 Rekindling friendship and identity01:00:55 Kelz’ poetryClick here for transcription!Episode ReferencesCriminal Intimacy: Prison and the Uneven History of Modern American Sexuality by Regina Kunzel (Book 2008)The Aggressives (Documentary 2005) Between Women (TV Series 2011-2013) Sula (Novel 1973) we was bois together by Kelsey L. SmootRead more about Kelz in thier bio below:Kelsey L. Smoot (They/Them/He/Him) is a full-time PhD student in the interdisciplinary social sciences and humanities, as well as a poet, advocate, and frequent writer of critical analysis. They are the author of a chapbook titled We Was Bois Together (CLASH! an Imprint of Mouthfeel Press).Instagram.com/nonbinarypapiCelebrate 10 years of Dem Bois Inc.!2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve.Your support helps build a future rooted in care, visibility, and possibility.Donate today!Donate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color!The  Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! - Not just merch, but a movement! Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc - Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else!