Fair Play, Real Life: How We Manage the Mental Load as a Couple

Send us Fan MailHow do you actually share the mental load without constant fighting, resentment, or feeling like you’re doing it all?This is part 3 of a 4-part series on the mental load — and today, we're getting practical.I'm sharing how my partner and I used the Fair Play Method by Eve Rodsky to manage the mental load in our house — what worked, what didn't, and how we adapted it for real life with kids, neurodivergence, and wildly different nervous systems.We talk about:Why Fair Play is not about 50/50 — and what to aim for insteadWhat it actually means to "own" a taskThe mistake most couples make when they inventory choresHow staying in your own lane can feel lighter than "helping"And how we started with just 5–10 daily grind cardsPlus, my honest take on the Fair Play book itself — when it's helpful, and when it might make things harder (especially if your partner is already feeling defensive).This episode is about making the invisible visible — without turning your relationship into a negotiation table.In the final episode of this series, we'll talk about the mental load of sex... and who carries responsibility for tending the relationship itself.