Faith Over Friction — Turning Conflict into Connection

Conflict happens—in our workplaces, our homes, and even in our churches. But how we handle it makes all the difference. In this insightful conversation, host Elly Marroquin welcomes back Brenda, a high school student navigator and longtime behavioral specialist, and Troy Renter, a lead pastor, licensed therapist, and network KidMin director. Together, they unpack what healthy and unhealthy conflict looks like, why some disagreements feel "real" to one person and not the other, and how bitterness can quietly take root when conflict goes unresolved. Drawing from their experiences in Ministry, therapy, and working with at-risk youth, Brenda and Troy share practical wisdom on navigating hard conversations, breaking unhealthy cycles, and teaching our children how to manage emotions with grace. This episode will remind you that healthy conflict isn't about who's right—I's about choosing understanding, forgiveness, and love that heals instead of wounds. ---------------------------------------------- TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 Welcome & Meet Troy & Brenda Renter 00:04:54 Defining Conflict: What It Is and What It Isn't 00:08:35 Understanding Emotional Detachment 00:12:20 Hitting Pause: How to Step Back Before You React 00:15:29 Handling Conflict the Biblical Way (Matthew 18) 00:16:56 When Conflict Is Just a Misunderstanding 00:17:43 "Slow and Low": A Healthier Approach to Conflict Resolution 00:20:45 Teaching Age-Appropriate Conflict Resolution 00:28:10 Using Restorative Circles to Build Understanding 00:30:27 The Healing Power of Forgiveness 00:43:18 Final Takeaways & Gold Nuggets ---------------------------------------------- Follow Ignite Parenting Instagram | @Ignite.Parenting Facebook | Ignite Parenting Website | www.igniteparenting.com