Fantasy, Fetishes & Feeling Seen: What Porn Teaches Us About Desire | Sexuality

In this candid and playful episode of Please Me Podcast, Eve welcomes back Kels and Tess, the bold duo behind Porn Nerds and Get Squirmy, for a continued conversation about porn, pleasure, and the beautifully “squirmy” parts of human sexuality. Together, they explore how fantasy and curiosity shape desire, and how engaging with these inner worlds—without shame—can lead to greater self-awareness and stronger intimacy in relationships. The conversation breaks down the difference between fantasy and real-life experience, highlighting how each can serve a different role in understanding our needs, boundaries, and turn-ons. Kels and Tess also share insights on how porn can be used as a healthy tool for exploration when approached consciously, and how couples can transform vulnerable conversations about sex into opportunities for deeper connection and trust. At its core, this episode is about dismantling stigma, normalizing desire, and learning how to communicate what we want with honesty and confidence. What You’ll Learn • How porn can support healthy curiosity and sexual exploration • The difference between fantasy and real-life intimacy • What porn preferences may reveal about emotional or physical needs • How to talk about porn and desire without shame • Ways to turn sexual conversations into deeper connection • How fantasy can improve communication in relationships • Tools for exploring curiosity safely and consciously Connect With the Guests Kels & Tess Creators of Porn Nerds & Get Squirmy Website: https://www.squirm.fm Resources from Eve The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/ 30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/ Connect With Eve Website: https://pleaseme.online Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com Patreon (Ad-Free + Bonus Content): https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices