Feeling undesirable, getting REJECTED, and dealing with sexual racism, fetishization, & toxic beauty standards (with swimmer Daniel Chang)

(b)ooo 👻 we are getting personal in this one. how do you deal with feeling undesirable as a poc, queer person, or both, (or i suppose neither)? How do you ACTUALLY deal with rejection besides having your friends tell you how hot you are and f*ck that guy (cause we know that never really works…)? thanks to my good friend, fellow gaysian, and swimmer Daniel Chang (fun fact: one admin in college confused us two), along with many loyal truthies who opted into the discourse on instagram— FOLLOW @NOSOTRUEPOD— we are TALKING about how to deal with that forever-alone feeling that comes with rejection, fetishization, and toxic beauty standards… particularly from wh*te people. Jump scare. Beware. It’s time to get real.... 😈 happy halloween, truthies #dating #sex #20s #lgbt #lgbtq #queer #bipoc #beauty (0:00) intro and why this is important to me (5:06) sexual racism is REAL (8:40) words from LISTENERS! (9:20) a Latina woman's perspective + the algorithm (13:48) a white gay twink's perspective + body image (17:20) other listeners (19:50) Daniel Chang- being judged as a swimmer (22:15) white people as the "prize" + rice queens 🍚👸 (25:55) educating fetishizers (?) + getting out your box (30:10) REJECTION as an Asian (34:30) not subscribing to the standard (39:50) how to feel more confident (43:20) hooking up with a non-white person (45:00) FIGURING OUT WHAT YOU LIKE (48:02) DEALING with rejection (50:10) ADVICE (54:45) Eric's story (57:40) how to CHANGE your sexual preferences and where they come from (1:02:00) Ending: a self-loving Black woman's perspective