Fertility Burnout & the Trap of Self-Monitoring Your Healing During IVF & Infertility :: Week 17

“Awareness is not the same as self-monitoring.” Topics Discussed How awareness quietly turns into pressure and self-monitoring The deeply ingrained pattern of being hypercritical with yourself Why many emotional patterns are learned, not who you actually are The difference between observing and trying to fix yourself The concept of “the observer observing the observer” How judgment, shame, and blame activate the nervous system Why clean awareness creates regulation and softness in the body Letting go of the need to improve every moment you notice The internal stories that keep you stuck in “this is just who I am” Moving into a more neutral, graceful relationship with yourself Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… And this week… we go a layer deeper. Because a lot of you have done the work. You’ve slowed down. You’ve started noticing your patterns. You’re becoming aware. And instead of that bringing relief… it’s quietly turned into another thing you’re trying to get right. Watching yourself. Correcting yourself. Wondering if you’re doing it “well enough.” And I get it. I’ve lived that. But this is where things can get a little sneaky. Because awareness can very quickly turn into self-monitoring. And self-monitoring almost always turns into judgment. So instead of softening… your body tightens even more. This episode is where we shift that. Not by doing more. Not by fixing anything. But by learning how to observe yourself without adding another layer of pressure on top of everything you’re already carrying. Because the truth is… you’re not stuck because you’re doing it wrong. You’re stuck because you’re still judging yourself while you’re trying to change. And once you see that… something opens. “Judgment tightens the body. Awareness softens it.” Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and grounding into your fertility journey 01:35 How awareness turns into self-monitoring and pressure 02:29 The root of self-judgment and learned patterns 03:18 The observer observing the observer explained 04:47 Why judgment tightens the body and awareness softens it 06:12 You are the only one judging yourself Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-17%20Fertility%20Burnout%20&%20the%20Trap%20of%20Self-Monitoring%20Your%20Healing%20During%20IVF%20&%20Infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.