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EPISODE · Sep 3, 2025 · 50 MIN

Fetish, Fantasy & Finding Real Love: Kaila Yu on Self-Worth

from Crimes of the Heart: a love and dating podcast

Hope everyone had a great labor day, clearly I did... I thought yesterday was Monday literally all day until about 11PM when I realized it was Tuesday and I hadn't dropped this episode... WHOOPS. Forgive me <3 No one fetishized Kaila Yu more than she fetishized herself. As a young girl, she dreamt of beauty. But none of the beautiful women on television looked like her. In the late '90s and early 2000s Asian women were often reduced to overtly sexual and submissive caricatures—Within that narrow framework, Kaila internalized a painful conclusion: The only way someone who looked like her could have value or be considered beautiful and desirable was to sexualize herself. We embark on a conversation about beauty, race and self love in this week’s episode. To learn more about Kaila you can visit her site here or buy her book here. To WATCH episodes click here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at [email protected] or DM on Instagram & TikTokOpening Jingle credit: Harry FosterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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