FFL #013 You're Dating Your Trauma Without Realizing It | Fight For Love

Why do we keep choosing the same person…just with a different face?In this episode of Fight for Love, Michael and Gillian sit down with Heidi and Brandal Lewis to unpack:• Attracting the wrong type• The “milk dud” cycle• The savior complex• Dimming your light to make someone else comfortable• Why isolation can be healing• Why you must stop trying to “fix” people• Being honest from day one• Grace in arguments• How to break toxic relationship patternsToo many people are dating their trauma.Trying to change someone.Trying to save someone.Trying to shrink themselves.But two broken halves don’t make a whole.You must become whole first.And when you do?You stop looking… and the right person recognizes you.This episode is about ownership.Accountability.Transparency.And choosing peace over chaos.Because this is what we fight for.We fight for love.🔗 CONNECT WITH USFight For LoveInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/fightforlovepodcastMichael Jai WhiteInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialmichaeljaiGillian WhiteInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamgillianwhite⏱️ CHAPTERS0:00 – When You Know, You Know2:03 – Dating the Wrong Type (“Milk Duds”)6:05 – Dimming Your Light for Insecure Partners14:00 – Stop Trying to Change People17:52 – Fast Engagement: When It’s Right22:31 – Attracted to Narcissists23:42 – The Savior Complex25:29 – Breaking Toxic Patterns28:44 – Heal Before You Date Again32:05 – Grace in Arguments36:46 – Caller: “Why Do They Always Leave Me?”38:15 – Stop Hiding Who You Really Are42:25 – Radical Transparency in Relationships43:10 – Life Partner vs Crisis Partner44:50 – Call In for Relationship Advice