Fight Fair | 2 Samuel 2 (key verses: 2:8–32)

In this message, Pastor Casey Kendall invites the church into a kind of discipleship that many believers never receive: how to handle conflict in a way that honors Jesus—in marriages, friendships, workplaces, and even church life. Using 2 Samuel 2 as the backdrop, he contrasts the leadership of David (marked by prayer, restraint, and kindness) with the reactive, pride-fueled conflict of Abner and Joab, which escalates until nearly 400 people die.Through vivid storytelling—including the boxing scandal of Louis Resto and Billy Collins Jr.—Pastor Casey warns that fighting “dirty” can permanently blur someone else’s vision, leaving lasting damage in families and relationships. But there’s a better way: release control, pick your battles, slow down, return kindness for hate, pray for your aggressor, set wise boundaries, and surrender pride to God.The message ends with a call to repentance and healing: don’t keep “steam” bottled up. The breakthrough comes when we stop fighting, yield control back to Jesus, and pursue the mission of the King—grace.