Finding Love After a Difficult Father

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Impact of Lisa’s father's absence and behavior on personal relationships

- Her realization about the impact of blaming parents for relationship struggles

- Deciding to transform and not be defined by the past

- Transitioning from blaming to taking responsibility for one’s own happiness

- Lisa’s experience of rejection and fear originating from the father-daughter relationship

- Her decision to seek and attract qualities in a partner that were lacking in the father

- Meeting the right partner after personal growth and emotional healing

- Letting go of past baggage and emotional wounds from previous relationships

Key quotes:

"I’d meet somebody and tell them my story. Then I meet someone else, and I tell them my story. Eventually, I started to see how inane and boring it is to keep retelling your story as if that's who you are." — Lisa Shield

“It hit me that carrying all of this blame and this old story that it was my father's fault that I couldn't have a healthy relationship with a man was getting in my way." — Lisa Shield

"I decided that if I couldn't heal my relationship with my own father, that I could still heal my relationships with men." — Lisa Shield

"I went on 96 1st dates. The 96th date was my husband Benjamin. The whole time I was putting myself out there, as I was sitting across from a man on a date, I often felt like being rejected by my father all over again. Those fears would come up, and I would have to deal with them. I would sit with my feelings, I would love myself, and I would talk myself off the ledge." — Lisa Shield

"Instead of using my relationship with my father as an excuse for why I couldn't have the kind of relationship I wanted, I used it as the reason why I had to go out and find the kind of guy I wanted…I knew I had the power to walk forward, to acknowledge that my relationship with my father was never going to be what I wanted, but that I could get out there and do the work and face my fears and learn how to separate the good men from the not so good men and find a Guardian of My Soul." — Lisa Shield

"I had to learn how to love myself. No matter what was going on around me, no matter whether a guy wrote back to me or asked me on a second date or not, I knew that I had to keep moving forward, healing my heart, and loving myself." — Lisa Shield

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Continue On Your Journey: 

Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with Lisa

Email the podcast at: [email protected]