Finding Mentors After Graduation: Pat Kilner on Find Your Six

In this week's episode, we sit down with Pat Kilner, a graduate of The Heights, former Heights teacher, Heights dad, and now Chairman of the Board of Directors to discuss his new book, Find Your Six: Stop Lead Generating and Start Building Influence. Whether you are in college or high school, a young professional or a seasoned veteran, this week's conversation centers on something that is crucial for everyone: mentorship. This mentorship is something that we sometimes take for granted as Heights students, but what happens after The Heights, when your mentor is no longer hunting you down after 3rd period for a check in? How do you find good counsel then, on foreign turf and starting from ground zero? Drawing on both his personal experience and formal research for the book, Pat encourages us to find and foster relationships with influencers. As the conversation continues, Pat explains that influencers are really nothing other than great mentors and that perhaps more than anything else, it is finding good mentors that will help one be successful both in his professional career and in his personal life. To this end, he offers advice to college students and young professionals about how to find possible mentors, secure meetings, and approach that first conversation with sincere curiosity and a desire to learn from the wisdom that the other has to offer. In the end, Pat shares that these relationships should grow into life-long friendships of mutual benefit. The aim is not to pull mere facts and data points, as one does from google, but to develop an authentic relationship with someone who is a living source of wisdom and to whom one can turn throughout the course of his life. Moreover, once we have benefitted from this wisdom, it's our turn to pass it on. Way leads on to way and the tradition continues. Show Highlights The importance of mentoring both at the Heights and beyond Is it necessary to be excited about what you are doing on a daily basis? Why treating people as commodities is not only bad ethics, but also bad business How to find mentors and influencers Three characteristics to look for in a mentor: longevity, implicit trust, ownership mentality What is needed in a mentor is wisdom, not mere data points Reframing the college years: what would look like if by the end of college, you had acquired 4-6 deep mentorship relationships? What are good ways for college students to find mentors? How mentors can help you find mentors in new places. Why students should ask their professors out to lunch or coffee What is means to form your own "personal board of directors" How to find mentors, even if you are unsure of your professional path Why parents ought to let their children take ownership of their school work early on How to approach the art of the meeting What can parents get from the book? How do influencers and mentors relate to vocation? Recommended Reading Find Your Six: Stop Lead Generating and Start Building Influence Also on The Forum Mentor's Compass Why Boys Need Mentors The Odyssey, Mentors, and Humanitas How to Guide Conversations with a Mentee