Finding Someone To Insult You

It should be easy to find someone to insult us, on social media, for example, or from among our snarkiest friends. I feel like I want to find someone every day, or let them find me, because they help me to see where I’m holding back, where I’m stuck.  If you're looking for that, too, what happens when someone shows up and we just get defensive? Or we don’t listen in order to learn? And what if it’s not just one person? What if everyone is this friend, this teacher, and every insult is just an opportunity to learn how to be more kind?