Finding the Expression That Actually Sounds Like You | BIND After Launch Party

Welcome to Being Is the New Doing After-Launch Party 🎉The book is out, Being Is the New Doing is in the world. I wanted to celebrate that the way that feels most true to me with real conversations with people whose work I genuinely admire, and whose lives are — each in their own way — a living proof of what this book is about.So this is the After-Launch Party. Five lives. Five conversations.Being Is the New Doing is structured around the acronym FLUIDE — six dimensions of an aligned life and business: Foundations, Liberation, Unicity, Intuition, Deployment, and Evolution. This conversation lives right in the heart of the “I” — Intuition — and specifically what it means to let that intelligence come through your voice, your words, and the way you show up when you speak.I invited Kim Parkinson because she is doing something I find quietly radical: she helps spiritually aligned women entrepreneurs find and use their voice — not as a performance, not as a brand exercise, but as an actual channel for what they know. I met her on PodMatch, and from the very first conversation I had that feeling of “I’ve known this woman my whole life.” When someone can help you arrive at your own truth, that’s a gift.And she embodies what Being Is the New Doing is about: leading from inside out, trusting what you already carry, and having the courage to let it actually be heard.[00:03:04]The first thing Kim told me is that when women come to her with a podcast idea, they almost always arrive with the same plan: They’re going to interview other people. Their clients. Their friends. Experts. Anyone, really, except themselves. And she has to stop them and say: no. We need you. Your story. Your voice. Your words.It sounds simple. It isn’t. Because the block isn’t a lack of content — it’s a throat chakra constriction, as she puts it. A deep, almost physical hesitation to take up space with your own truth. And what she’s learned, over years of working with priestesses, astrologers, ministers, and corporate women, is that the moment someone stops performing and starts actually speaking — you can hear it. Immediately. In the voice itself.That’s what this conversation is about, voice as a doorway to yourself, rather than podcasting as a tactic. You can hear the smile[00:07:19 — 00:08:12]Kim said something that stayed with me: “I can hear their smiles.” Not see them. Hear them. When a client sends her a recorded audio, she knows within seconds whether they’ve arrived. Not from the content, not from the structure — from the quality of what’s coming through the voice.When someone reads from a script, the voice flattens. When they move to an outline — just sticky notes, just a few anchors — something shifts. The inflection returns. The breath changes. She can feel the calmness come over them through the recording. And that, she says, is when the intuitive guide starts coming through. When the transmission actually begins.It made me think of my first student job, answering phones as a telephonist before the internet existed (yes, we are that generation). My boss used to say: I want to hear your smile in your voice. I was 20 and shy and had no idea what that meant. Today, running a podcast, I realize I’ve been training for this my whole life. (The universe is like that, sometimes annoyingly so.)The throat chakra and what’s actually blocking you[00:04:23 — 00:06:57]Kim works with women across very different spiritual traditions — from Oracle readers and tarot practitioners to ministers and pastors, and corporate women who would never call themselves spiritual but already are, in their own way. What they all share is a version of the same blockage: the felt sense that their story is not quite worthy of being shared. That someone else’s story would be more interesting, more helpful, more legitimate.What she does is simple and not simple at all: She sits with them. She asks the right questions. What do clients ask you all the time? What do you know that you don’t even realize you know? And then she waits for intuition to take over, because it always does. The voice that emerges from that process sounds completely different from the voice that was performing before. It’s stiller and it comes from further inside.She describes it like an elastic band. You have to pull it back just a little, and then you go forward. The resistance isn’t the problem — it’s the launch.What I felt in my belly[00:16:53 — 00:18:25]There was a moment in our conversation where Kim was describing the feeling of speaking from a place of true alignment, and I noticed something: my belly went completely calm and settled. Not the electricity I sometimes get when something is right. Not goosebumps. Something quieter, more anchored. Like being grounded from the inside.I said it out loud, a little uncertain: I feel like my voice is more from the inside than from my throat. And she said: yes. That’s it. That’s an inner wash. That’s what we aim for — that what you speak comes from within and you’re delivering it to the world.That distinction between a voice that originates in the throat and a voice that originates in the body, the belly, the deeper self — it’s subtle and it’s everything. You’ve heard both. You know the difference immediately. One leaves you feeling slightly empty after speaking. The other leaves you feeling more like yourself.Intuition doesn’t push[00:45:13 — 00:49:28]One of the most useful things we said is that intuition is sure of itself, so it can wait. It doesn’t need to push. It doesn’t arrive with urgency or anxiety. It arrives calm, complete, often at the most inconvenient moments: the middle of the night, in the shower, while driving. These are all moments when your logical mind is occupied elsewhere, and the space opens.She described a friend who, rather than wake up and write in her journal at 3am, would toss the journal on the floor next to her bed. If it was on the floor in the morning, she knew she had something to retrieve. A small, funny, deeply practical system for working with the timing of the inner voice rather than against it.I shared my own version of this: I’ve learned to receive what comes in the middle of the night without rushing to act on it. I tell it: “I know you’re here. Come back at a better time.” And it does — usually richer, with more precision, more information. Because when you stop forcing, there’s space for the full picture to arrive.The client who thought she’d lost her intuition[00:40:25 — 00:42:35]Earlier that same afternoon, I’d been with a client who was crying. She said she’d lost her faith and her intuition over the past year. No more goosebumps. No more visions. No sense of channeling. She felt like something essential had gone quiet.And then, in the middle of our conversation, something shifted. She was talking and I noticed: she was completely grounded in her own sovereignty. Still. Clear. I asked where it was coming from. She said: I don’t know. I just feel so good when I’m sharing this.That’s your soul talking, I told her. Your inner truth. You haven’t lost anything — the silence you’ve been experiencing is your upgrade. Because to arrive where you’re meant to go, you had to stop accessing the old way. You can’t run new software on the old operating system. She stopped crying. She felt it: still here. Just different.Kim’s response when I shared this: sometimes there’s just a lot of noise, and we allow it in. When we don’t step back, the noise takes over. What that client needed wasn’t more intuition. She needed someone to guide her back to the stillness she’d already earned.Acting from scarcity, or: why your clients can feel it[00:57:46 — 00:59:44]We ended the conversation somewhere unexpected: talking about what happens when you try to attract clients from a place of need. Not want, not intention — raw, anxious need. Kim said it directly: if your bank account is at zero and you’re in panic mode, it’s not going to work. They can feel it. Scarcity repels.I added what I’ve learned over 15 years of running my own business — through the long downs, the dry spells, the moments where the fear is real: even then, right now, at this second, I am safe. Roof over my head. Invoices paid. Healthy. That shift — from the anxiety of what might happen to the present fact of what is — is not a performance of abundance. It’s inner security. And it’s the only ground from which aligned clients can actually find you.Kim put it with the simplicity that I’ve come to recognize as her signature: “If you are truly in alignment with the people you want as clients, they will find you. Whether that’s your podcast, your newsletter, your Instagram, wherever. They’ll find you when it’s ready for them too.”So here’s what I’m leaving you with:When you speak — in your podcast, in a live, in a client conversation, or just to yourself in your journal — where does the voice actually come from? The throat, or somewhere deeper? And if it’s been a while since you felt that deeper place: what would it take to create enough stillness for it to come back?You can find Kim Parkinson and her podcast Podcasting for Your Spiritual Business at kpcreativemedia.com/podcast, and on all major podcast platforms. And below our very first conversation 😉Being Is the New Doing is available on Amazon: https://a.co/d/08gxk9ctThank you Margaret Williams, MS, ACC, Paul k, and many others for tuning into my live video with Kim Parkinson! See U all soon!Val. Get full access to The Awakened Entrepreneur at demontvalerie.substack.com/subscribe