Finding the Right People: Deep Bonds, Medium Friends, and Evolving Connections

In this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi explore what it means to have the “right people” in our lives, how friendships evolve, and the role of “medium friends” who may not be our closest confidants but still play meaningful roles.What We Cover:Letting Vibes Lead in Finding the Right PeopleThe power of deep bonds with given family, chosen family, and platonic partnersChoosing to surround yourself with people who align with your values and needsThe importance of mutual understanding and adaptability in maintaining friendships through life transitionsThe Unclear Nature of Gaining ClarityThe difficulty of setting expectations and boundaries in friendshipsHow reciprocity works (and doesn’t work) in relationships, and why overextending yourself rarely benefits anyone (referencing Vibe Check’s Do It While It’s Still Legal and Danielle Bayard Jackson’s Fighting for Our Friendships)Understanding that no one technically owes you anything, but open communication and mutual care are essential for sustaining meaningful friendshipsMedium FriendsThe role of “medium friendships” may not be our closest connections, but they serve essential social and emotional needs (inspired by Lisa Miller’s The Vexing Problem of the ‘Medium Friend’ in The New York Times)The reality of friendship turnover—with 30-40% of medium friends shifting annuallyMoving away from ranking friendships in favor of recognizing each connection's unique benefits and limitationsQuestion of the Week:Do you feel like you’re focusing your deep friendships on the right people? What is your perspective on the role of medium friends in your life right now?Join the ConversationEmail us: [email protected] us on Instagram: @tablepancakespodConnect with us: @shelbihq | @katherinehfosterIf you enjoyed this episode, we’d love it if you rated, reviewed, and subscribed to the show. Your support helps us continue these conversations. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.