Finding Your Joy and Sexual Authenticity for Optimal Relationships and Sex, Advice from Coach Andre Lazarus

Season 6, Episode 734: A Genuine Discussion of Relationships, Intimacy, and Sex. From Marine to Intimacy Guide: Andre Lazarus discusses topics on Pleasure, Vulnerability, Shedding Shame, and Connection with podcast host Ruan Willow.Rarely does a career pivot feel this surprising and this necessary. Andre Lazarus went from U.S. Marine to somatic intimacy guide, and the journey took a full decade of witnessing profound healing breakthroughs before he truly found his calling.Andre shares how his work (grounded in the Somatica method) helps everyone from trauma survivors to couples navigating alternative relationships. He's perhaps best known for appearing on the U.K. television series Virgin Island as a professional surrogate partner, bringing these conversations into public view in a way that actually matters.What does it really mean to feel safe enough for genuine pleasure? How can we be more authentic in our intimacy? Andre argues that safety isn't something a partner provides for you. It's your own responsibility, built through boundaries that are dynamic and require constant, intentional practice.Andre addresses male vulnerability, which is less commonly discussed. Men, he explains, often struggle deeply with reconnecting to vulnerability, and that disconnection blocks pleasure entirely. He also breaks down his three-pillar framework: open community conversation about sex, attunement to a partner, and aftercare. He also talks about how men have traditionally talked about sex from their own perspective, leaving women, women's bodies, sensations, and women's pleasure out of the conversation, which has collectively skewed our culture's view of sexuality to the male experience and perspective, and erroneously perpetuated that this also applies to women. This is total lie and a very common, and toxically pervasive, misconception. Humans are finally looking at women's pleasure and experiences with sex, but it will take time to permeate the general populus to break the male centered myths. The more we talk about this the better!Connect with Andre: Today, Andre balances private coaching, workshops, and a men’s online course on sexual communication with growing media visibility, including the upcoming second season of Virgin Island. Website: ⁠https://www.coming-closer.com/⁠Linkedin: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/company/coming-closer/⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@comingcloserwithandre⁠Facebook: ⁠https://web.facebook.com/comingcloserwithandre?_rdc=1&_rdr#⁠Media profile: ⁠https://www.guestsonair.com/profile/andre-lazarus⁠PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillowGet 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJhAffiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠⁠Ruan's book in order: directly from Ruan https://payhip.com/b/pMxn3Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing LLC. All Rights Reserved.