“First of All... Don’t Tell Me What To Do”: Relationship Repair & Emotional Regulation

Rachel and Rosie start with vocabulary words and somehow end up talking about ADHD, re-parenting, emotional regulation, and ChapStick. They discuss the question that immediately reduced tension with both a husband and a toddler, why parenting starts with exhaustion instead of expertise, and how a five-second pause can completely change a conversation.   WHAT WE TALK ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE → why "I need you to be ready" landed so badly → the same relationship troubleshooting question working on both the husband and a toddler → what you're actually afraid of losing in moments of tension → why some people need a question before they can find an answer → maternal mental health and taking time for yourself → re-parenting, self-regulation, and making your own voice matter → parenting in the Wild West of conflicting advice → "new plan," "proof of life," and other phrases that make family life easier → why parenting doesn't start with expertise—it starts with exhaustion → what repair really sounds like after a hard moment → modeling for your kids how to pause before reacting   🔗 LINKS & MENTIONS - Lingvano app for learning American Sign Language   🤍 CONNECT WITH US Instagram: → @judgment_not_judgmental → @regulatingwithrachel   If this episode felt like your life: Send it to the friend you voice note when everything feels like too much. Or DM us. We’re really glad you’re here.