Fixing the Mental Load Won’t Save Your Sex Life

Send us Fan MailFeeling resentful, disconnected, or just done with intimacy because you're the one holding everything together?Or maybe you're doing your share—and still hearing that it’s not enough?This episode is for you.We’re diving into the mental load: what it really is, how it impacts your nervous system (and your sex life), and why even splitting things 50/50 doesn’t always fix the spark.Spoiler: doing the dishes isn’t foreplay if you’re not emotionally connected.👇 In this episode, you’ll learn: What the mental load really is (and how it messes with your libido) The “silver bullet” myth: why more help doesn’t always = more sex When fairness falls flat: the emotional load of doing life together Why we need to stop stop fixing your partner—start rebuilding connection 3 tools to rebuild intimacy without more pressureLet’s flip the script on desire and resentment. Because sex after kids shouldn’t feel like another job.Love this convo? Here’s how to go deeper:🔍 Take the Solve Your Sex Drive Quiz – Find out what’s really blocking your libido 💥 Book a free Spark Session – A no-pressure space to talk about what’s not working (and what might help)👉 Subscribe for more real talk on desire, intimacy, and connection after kids.Resources- Fair Play by Eve Rodsky- A Better Share by  Dr Morgan Cutlip- Fatherhood Unlocked- Zach - Recovering Man Child 💌 Got questions? Drop them in the comments or DM me on Instagram @thehappyvprojectBecause your sex life doesn’t have to die after bedtime.Let’s bring back the fun, the flirt, and the f*ck-yes.