FOMO, JOMO and beyond

Moving from Fear, to Joy of Missing Out and beyond both. FOMO arises from projection and fantasy, as does a lot of the imagined enjoyment of the imagined pleasures.We might imagine that:everything we want is outside ourselvespleasure, meaning or peak experiences must be mediated by something: people, substances, or outside eventsthat we have to follow a formula to achieve themWe chew over the classic cliche FOMO of music festivals, and unearth some insights: the positives of turning towards your own prioritiespursuing projects and personal growth brings the greater contentment'projects over pleasures'the pursuit of meaningful experiences on your own terms or with people you care aboutsometimes the best music experience is going mental to a good tune where no-one can seeJoe contends that beyond FOMO and JOMO is the flow state:the real peak experiences of life often occur in the flow statewhich has little to do with glamorous activities or what we have been told to wantWe touch on existentialism and some key FOMO psychology:humans struggle to reliably imagine their own future feelingsto weigh the influence and impact of imagined eventswe struggle to accurately assess what others put on social media, obviouslybut this is also discomfort with our own choiceswe all carry the burden of choice, of what to value and pursuethe existential problem of assigning meaningit's not easy figuring out what we really wantit's difficult to imagine what will actually make us happy or bring contentment, and in a sense it's our life's workthe choice to engage in fulfilling projects is seemingly more difficult and uncertain than reaching for known pleasuresthe boring thing is doing what we think we will be fun and assigning it a greater future value than it can carrythe real boredom is not always in staying home and attending to our real prioritiesWe harangue Joe to turn towards something he gets a lot of meaning from, passages from spiritual books, and reflect on those in a new podcast series, which leads nicely to some useful concluding thoughtsthe value of following quiet passionsthe liberation found in chosen solitudeencouragement to make conscious life choices aligning with true desiresEpisode image courtesy of Craig. Check out his new blog, it's grouse https://wish-art.blog/Creators & Guests Ali Catramados - Host Joe Loh - Host Sam Ellis - Host (00:00) - TTTT fomo jomo (00:14) - Welcome and topic (00:33) - Personal Stories of FOMO and JOMO (03:20) - The Cultural Phenomenon of Music Festivals (05:58) - Sobriety and Its Impact on Social Life (07:49) - The Shift from FOMO to JOMO in Adulthood (07:59) - Reality, Music Festivals, It's a Business (08:30) - Interviews with musicians (19:28) - Finding Joy in Simplicity and Creativity (24:42) - The Real FOMO: Missing Out on Personal Passions (29:48) - Embracing JOMO in Everyday Life (31:51) - Rediscovering Simple Pleasures (32:13) - The Pivot: From Boredom to Texture of Experience (32:30) - Mediated Experiences vs. Reality (33:14) - Body Acceptance and the Illusion of Projected Happiness (34:02) - Music Festivals and the Pursuit of Authentic Joy (34:52) - The Path of Personal Growth (36:19) - Embracing Individuality and Comfort (48:41) - Finding Meaning in Quiet Contemplation (51:01) - Projects over pleasures - the origin of Joe's new podcast (53:43) - Joe's new diet - and more origin for the new project (58:53) - Balancing JOMO and FOMO (01:01:17) - Concluding Thoughts on Personal Fulfillment 0:00 TTTT fomo jomo00:14 Welcome and topic00:33 Personal Stories of FOMO and JOMO03:20 The Cultural Phenomenon of Music Festivals05:58 Sobriety and Its Impact on Social Life07:49 The Shift from FOMO to JOMO in Adulthood07:59 Reality, Music Festivals, It's a Business08:30 Interviews with musicians19:28 Finding Joy in Simplicity and Creativity24:42 The Real FOMO: Missing Out on Personal Passions29:48 Embracing JOMO in Everyday Life31:51 Rediscovering Simple Pleasures32:13 The Pivot: From Boredom to Texture of Experience32:30 Mediated Experiences vs. Reality33:14 Body Acceptance and the Illusion of Projected Happiness34:02 Music Festivals and the Pursuit of Authentic Joy34:52 The Path of Personal Growth36:19 Embracing Individuality and Comfort48:41 Finding Meaning in Quiet Contemplation51:01 Projects over pleasures - the origin of Joe's new podcast53:43 Joe's new diet - and more origin for the new project58:53 Balancing JOMO and FOMO01:01:17 Concluding Thoughts on Personal Fulfillment