For Those Experiencing Fresh Loss

I recorded this podcast specifically for someone experiencing the fresh loss of a loved one. If that’s you, welcome. I’m gonna keep this brief - and the podcast if brief too. First. There is nothing wrong with you. You can not get this wrong. Your body is responding to a profound disruption to your sense of normal and your entire anatomy is impacted.Two. It’s common to feel guilty to simply live your routine. Imagine, your person watching you now. Better yet. Imagine that the roles are reversed and you are watching them experience losing you. What do you want for them? Do you want them to stay in a perpetual state of suffering? What if what you want for them is a permission slip of sorts for you? You likely want to stay close to your person. How do you do that? What did they care about? What were their values, or the unique impact they made in the world. Trying on some of those interests and traits is a way that may help you feel close to them. Three. Being honest with yourself about the unfinished conversations between you does not hurt your person. Even though in our culture, there is an unexamined belief that talking about the dead is off limits - that somehow it harms them - the truth is what is unfinished stays alive in you. There is so much more in this episode… It's deeply personal with parts of my story – including how I was with the betrayal I sensed, how to get support, what to say to hurtful comments, and how to stay grounded.  And please know, I’m here – in your corner.