Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

Welcome back to another episode of Wise Mind, A DBT podcast with your hosts, Maddy and Raichel! A huge thank you to all our new Patreon subscribers. If you’d like access to extra bonus content each week for your ears and eyes, you can subscribe via the link on our website.In this episode, we explore the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” the relationship patterns identified by the Gottmans that can predict conflict and disconnection in relationships over time. We unpack the four horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, and discuss how these behaviours can impact not only romantic relationships, but also friendships, family dynamics, and everyday interactions.We also dive into why the Gottmans’ research is so influential and how it connects with DBT principles, emotional regulation, mindfulness, and effective communication. Most importantly, we explore the antidotes to these patterns and the practical ways we can begin creating healthier, more connected relationships through validation, repair attempts, self-awareness, and intentional communication.This episode is full of insight, reflection, and practical tools to help strengthen your relationships and better understand the patterns that shape connection.Find all details, resources, training, groups at: www.wisemindcollective.com.auContact us:wisemindcollective.com.auOrInstagram + Facebook - Wisemind DBT PodcastCrisis SupportThis space may include discussions that bring up strong emotions or difficult topics. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, please know you're not alone and support is available.If you or someone you know is in crisis, we encourage you to reach out to:Lifeline – 13 11 14 (24/7)Beyond Blue – 1300 22 463613YARN – 13 92 76 (A 24/7 national support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people)Emergency Services – 000 (if you are in immediate danger)Acknowledgment of Dr. Marsha M. Linehan and the Origins of DBTWe honor Dr. Marsha M. Linehan, psychologist and professor who created Dialectical Behavior Therapy.It’s thanks to Dr. Linehan that DBT has become a proven intervention for a range of mental health challenges.Wise Mind A DBT Podcast gratefully acknowledges that DBT is Dr. Linehan’s work, not ours, and we honor her legacy.