This is amazing media production. Hello, most awesome one. I'm Yana Angel, and you are listening to the Gwenplang small podcast, Yes, Face For Inspire Thinking, Encouragement, and Good Old Goodness. Many of us aren't intimidated at the plot, presenting or speaking with authority to an audience.
Why is that? How can we start to work through our own hang-ups to create more space for us to use our voices to benefit ourselves and maybe even the greater good? I invited presentation skills expert in speaking coach, Melinda Lee of Speaking Flow, to share with her research and lived experiences, have revealed. When we are putting a situation whether it's at home, whether it's at work, and we feel like our voices are good enough, the belief that we have had a voice is from old beliefs, or thinking.
Think back, go into your heart, not just your mind, but in your heart and your heart, we'll tell you if you act yet. What past the moment is the whole thing you have to say right now and document all the limiting thoughts around it. And just journal it out because it's got to go somewhere. When you journal it out, when you talk to people about it, even though you think I've already talked about it enough, but it's still coming up in that moment that means it's still bothering you.
Sorry. You have that completely gone out of it because it's still following you. And so you want to journal it out until you can have an inspiring feeling about it, not a limiting feeling. Like that moment, oh, I don't bear as I feel ashamed, but that means it's still holding you back.
A lot of times people will speak with their head, meaning they're thinking about an overthinking about what to say. They're overthinking about it, and I think it right. If you understand me, especially if you're in corporate, we have been taught to write out or script, what are we going to say? And then we go in all planned out.
And then what we forget is we forget how to connect to the person. And it is Gary. So I have had to do a lot of work to tap back into my intuition and allow myself to connect to the other person from my heart. So that means getting back into your heart and doing what you need to suspend judgment to spend your own thoughts and be in that pause.
That plays a pause, which can be really scary for people, but that is a place where you open up a possibility. And then you can bring in inspiration, new thoughts, new words that will connect to the audience, because if you have all planned out in a script and you're thinking overthinking about what to say, then you've lost your connection. How can we lean into the power of using our voice and our experiences combined? Our voice when you lock in and believe the true power of your voice, you are going to be inspired to want to share more.
Share who you are unlocking the power of your voice, understanding that you are amazing. You have that seat of potential and realizing our life is short here. We don't have a lot of time. And so we think we have a great big traumatic experience to share it.
I'm not necessarily true. The other day my mom said to me, you know my son is filling out high school application. And he doesn't have an experience. He just goes to school and goes to softball.
He doesn't have no stories to share. And I said, that's not true. He goes to softball. He probably has overcome a lot of different challenges at softball at school.
And she said, you're right. I cheeky does. So it's about knowing that every experience that you had and documenting it can be turned into a story. And the more you share your stories, the more that becomes your legacy.
My grandmother, she was the fourth concubine. When she was 25 years old, she was sold into a marriage to a man who was 35 years her senior. She not only listened to her husband, she also answered to three other wives. I am the first generation here to be able to say what I want to say beside my career, use my voice to inspire others.
If a gift, either little known secrets to developing or having unshakable confidence when you're engaging in public speaking. Let me go, but you don't need any more. Before you even go speak, spend that time. Take a moment 10 minutes for yourself and let me go of all those fears.
And all you do to let go of this, you're just talking it out right now. I feel that right now. I feel afraid. I feel like I'm not going to say the right thing.
And just send it back. Send it back to God. Send it back to how yourself. Send it back what I do.
That is really powerful that you can do anything about it today. Wash your hands. When you're going to the bathroom, you're going to go to the bathroom. When you're going to wash your hands, wash your weight.
We do that five times a day. Send back any other living thoughts washing it away with your hands. It's a visceral motion. That will help you feel like, okay, this is time to let me go.
And then you get back in the presence. I'm so grateful to Melinda for spending time with us. One thing that she said that really stood out to me and that I'll use as I hit stages in the future is that connection point. Building that intimacy, going deeper with your audience so that they can really feel your message and it takes away some of the angst as you hit the stage.
Because you're not looking to be perfect. You're looking to connect. Thank you so much for joining me this week. And as always, be well.