Friendship for Fathers: John Cuddeback on Living and Teaching the Art

In a recent national survey of adults in America, a striking sixty-one percent of young adults (age 18-25) reported feeling serious loneliness. Such feelings of loneliness were also accompanied by anxiety and depression. Although humans are by nature social animals, it would seem that forming deep friendships may not always come so naturally. How do we form friendships? How do we help our sons form friendships? What even is friendship? To help us answer these questions, we welcome to HeightsCast John Cuddeback, professor of philosophy at Christendom College and Life Craft writer and speaker. In this episode, Professor Cuddeback helps us understand what friendship is, how to practice the art of friendship, and how friendship goes hand-in-hand with happiness. As he explains, friendships do not merely happen. Rather, they require intentional cultivation and sustained effort. Indeed, like any art, the art of friendship requires discipline and practice. Specifically, Professor Cuddeback focuses our attention on how a husband can form a deep friendship with his wife and a few male friends, as well as how he can help his children to grow in their own friendships. Being a father first, he may one day become a friend of his adult children. As Professor Cuddeback explains, true friendship is the only way to overcome loneliness in life. And, in the end, it will be in sharing our lives with friends that we come to find the ultimate meaning of our lives. Chapters 1:25 What is friendship? 4:15 Different kinds of friendship 9:05 Friendship and human flourishing 11:05 Happiness today 14:00 The activities of friendship 19:40 The number of friends 24:40 Friendship for the twenty-first century father 28:00 Selecting friends 33:30 Friendship with your spouse 41:10 Friendship with other men 44:30 How to prioritize relationships 47:15 Parenting and friendship 50:47 How to coach our children in forming friendships 55:37 Advice and encouragement for single mothers Resources Life-Craft.org True Friendship: Where Virtue Becomes Happiness by John Cuddeback Nicomachean Ethics by Aristotle Spiritual Friendship by Aelred of Rievaulx Treatise on Law by Thomas Aquinas Also on The Forum Cultivating Friendship in the Classroom by Austin Hatch On Friendship after Senior Year: Higher Stakes and Beautiful Opportunities with Dave Maxham Friendship for the 21st Century Boy with Alvaro de Vicente On Home as Social Hub: The Importance of Hosting Our Sons and Their Friends with Tom Royals