From Dysfunction to Delight: How to Remap Your Relationship Template

You meet someone, start a relationship thinking "this is something new"...and then it turns out to be the same old pattern repeating itself. What gives? Everyone seeks relationships that nourish them - we want to be with people who love us, see us, make us feel safe, and to be regarded with value and appreciation. But so many of us keep finding ourselves in dysfunctional relationships and end up picking the same type of people over and over again. How do we break this cycle and learn to pick the right people for us? How do we even end up this way in the first place? Well…who we pick will always trace back to what we grew up seeing and how we feel about ourselves. The relationship frameworks we see in our early years become the template we apply to the partners we choose later in life. If we emerge from childhood with struggles with self-love and worthiness, we'll keep attracting connections that vibrate at that level. But here's the good news: if we learned something, we can unlearn it and replace it with something better. How do we create a new template for love and connection? In this episode, we talk about how to repair a defective 'partner picker', and why it all starts with self love.   Things You'll Learn In This Episode  Why we pick the same people  Our families, environments and even our cultures determine a lot about the love we think is possible. How do we unlearn dysfunction?   First regard yourself with value and appreciation  Better relationships start with a better relationship with ourselves. How do we create a new roadmap based on loving ourselves?    How to spot low resonance  Part of why we end up in dysfunctional relationships is not being able to pick up when someone is dishonest, selfish or lacks integrity. How do we improve our own internal tuning fork so we can notice when something doesn't feel right? About Your Hosts Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.   Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.   Check out this episode on our website, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify and don't forget to leave a review if you like what you heard. Your review feeds the algorithm so the show reaches more people!