From London to Haarlem: Finding Home, Identity & Queer Belonging in Our 40s

After 18 years in London, we packed up our lives, our marriage, and our pugs — and moved to Haarlem in the Netherlands. In this episode of Yay to Be Gay – Relationships and More, we unpack the emotional, logistical, and deeply personal journey of relocating countries as a queer couple in our 40s.We talk about why we left London, how Brexit shaped our sense of belonging, what it’s really like to integrate into Dutch culture, and how the move transformed our relationship dynamic. From selling our house to navigating Dutch social circles, from losing queer spaces to finding new versions of ourselves; this episode is honest, funny, and full of lessons.Whether you're thinking about moving abroad, curious about expat life, or exploring what “home” means in midlife, this conversation is for you.