From the Military to Nightlife: One Veteran’s Story of Recovery, Bartending & Community

In this honest, heartfelt episode of The Skittle Squad Podcast, we sit down with Vernon Vaden, general manager of Mister D’s, Creative Loafing “Best Bartender” winner, and one of the youngest leaders in Tampa’s nightlife scene. Vernon walks us through his wild, inspiring journey, from military life to go-go dancing, overcoming addiction, and rising through the ranks to lead one of Tampa Bay’s most beloved gay clubs.We talk about the real stuff: the work behind bartending (yes, it’s part therapy), the grind of nightlife management, choosing sobriety to get your life back, and how community patrons, friends, and chosen family can save you when you need it most. Expect laughs, real talk about mental health, late-night bar confessions, and the kind of empathy that makes our scene feel like home. This episode explores: - Life behind the bar - bartending as care, craft, and connection-  Transitioning out of the military and reinventing yourself in queer spaces - Addiction, recovery, and choosing sobriety to regain control Winning Best Bartender — what that recognition felt like -Go-go dancing, tips, and the unexpected ways performance pays the bills- How nightlife builds chosen family and keeps community strongTune in for a conversation about resilience, accountability, and how showing up for each other keeps our community alive. If you or someone you love needs resources, Vernon and the hosts talk openly about where to turn.