From Toughness to Tenderness: Rethinking Masculinity | Peter Sandhill

In this episode of Say It Anyway, James Ferrigno sits down with facilitator and coach Peter Sandhill, who has spent decades helping people — especially men and leaders — develop emotional literacy, build healthier relationships, and learn how to truly “hold space.”Peter shares how growing up in a dysfunctional family and feeling out of sync with traditional masculine norms pushed him toward feelings work. He talks about teaching in Japan, working with high school students through Challenge Day, facilitating at the Human Awareness Institute, and supporting leaders in Silicon Valley through emotional intelligence and T-group work.Together, James and Peter explore what it means for men to be emotionally alive in a culture that discourages feelings, why grief never really follows a timeline, how generational trauma from war still echoes through families, and what it takes to create spaces where people can actually show up as themselves. They talk about raising sons differently, mentorship, men’s circles, spiritual and energetic practices, and the simple power of saying, “This is what I’m feeling right now.”If you’ve ever felt emotionally shut down, struggled to express yourself, or wondered how to support the men in your life, this conversation offers reflection, language, and hope.Disclaimer (for description): The views, opinions, and statements expressed by guests on Say It Anyway are their own and do not necessarily represent or reflect the views, opinions, or positions of the host, James Ferrigno, or the producers of this podcast. Say It Anyway does not endorse or assume responsibility for any statements made by guests. The content of this program is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.