[FULL] Johnny: “You Are A Drop In The Ocean”, Mindfulness & Finding Out Who You Are Before Finding A Relationship!

If you asked me if I would share my vulnerabilities and insecurities with a random stranger, I would have never thought of an occasion where I would sit down and talk about them for hours on end. But here I am, with Johnny, a fellow badminton player and also someone who recently got married. I sat down with him, with the intention of finding out how a relationship goes into marriage, and it turned into a session of finding out who I really am. For this episode, I hope you sit in a quiet room all by yourself to listen to this. Johnny shares how practicing this simple hack for 7 straight years has helped him to be free of suffering. More importantly, it has given him the gift of marriage when there are so many obstacles going his way. He is just like you and me, wanting to be free from suffering. Timeline: [00:00] Johnny’s married life and how he met his wife [02:40] Preparation for the wedding, expectations of customs, dealing with both sides of the family [05:12] Before finding a relationship, do these [08:47] The relationship between your upbringing and who you are [11:43] How to step out from a dark place [25:00] Where do our mindsets come from [30:34] Positive habits are harder to stick by? We talk plasticity of the mind, stimulation to keep our minds busy [38:11] The preconceived notion of who you are [47:11] Third culture kid [51:09] Life as impermanence [57:09] Negotiating with yourself [01:11:33] Being externally mindful [01:12:46] When do we get to the stage of marriage then? [01:21:03] Having a wedding in Singapore [01:25:58] Love is a matter of two person, but marriage is a matter of two families Sound effects obtained from https://www.zapsplat.com