感情：与前任成为朋友是否合适

Is it a mistake to be friends with an ex? Should one try? Why or why not?For new partners, for the old couple themselves, any experiences?  If not a mistake to be friends with an ex, when can the friendship start?Franklin Veaux, Friends with many of my exes.Updated Jun 25I only date people who I think are awesome. If they’re awesome and we break up, they’re still awesome. I remember the reasons we are not compatible as romantic partners, but I also remember the reason we got together in the first place. As a result, I am friends with most of my exes.Not all, to be sure; it takes two to maintain a friendship, and only one to break it.I think it’s fantastic to be friends with exes, and my exes who are also my friends add value to my life. Presumably I add value to theirs too, or they wouldn’t still be friends with me.It is not a problem for my new partners, because part of dating people I think are awesome is dating people who are secure. The people I date aren’t frightened of exes; indeed, one of my screening criteria is I only date people who are on good terms with some of their exes, as it’s the best correlate of emotional maturity I have discovered to date.