Gaslit & Getting Smarter

Have you ever found yourself doing favors and not realizing they are big favors and the person asking has a history of putting tasks on you but framing it as something you enjoy doing. They make you feel special and like you are a great friend or partner. They play on your ego to get their needs met. You are giving them a free pass and feeling altruistic about it. One day it clicks and you realize this person does the bare minimum in our relationship. Why am I eager to take on their problems or obligations? If you confront this person or say no then the victim playing comes out and another manipulation starts to make you the bad guy. This is done effortlessly and you walk away feeling crazy like you your feelings are not valid and it is you that is the problem.Last week’s podcast identified the 6 types of narcissist and this week we talk about the survivors of these relationships. Tips on how to survive, set silent boundaries and validate your experience reinforcing you are not crazy or the bad guy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit abbeysamide.substack.com