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I've been with my boyfriend. I've been with a man for four years now. He's 17 years older than I am. And it's been quite emotionally abusive.
And I'm trying to leave. But I have $23,000 in debt. I only really count $6,000 of debt because the 17 of it is car, which I feel like all are going to help me to get rid of it. But I don't want to.
I'm just trying to figure out how to navigate pain off this $6,000 because it's affecting me from getting a place of my own right now. And I have a bonus term work coming up. And I'm just like, I don't know how to navigate. How old are you?
I'm 27. And how much money do you make, honey? I make $2400 a month. Doing what?
I work for a very, very large health insurance company. I was like, how's for advocate? I'm sure you work 40 hours. Yes.
Do you have any kind of education or training? No. OK. You're a high school graduate?
Yes. No college. No. OK.
All right. I'm going to jump in quick because there's some money stuff that Dave's going to get to. But I want to tell you, one of the strategies here you've got to be thinking about quickly is raising your income. Yeah.
How do you take the skill set that you have? You're at a big time health care company. So you're in the building. How can you move up within the building?
What skill sets can you have without going to college? What types of work can you do? Where can get that income up by a minimum of, I want to say, 25% to 50% is your goal. You need more income.
You just don't have much to work with. You're making $15 an hour. It's not good. And you know, they're going right to 20 at Target.
I technically make like 1975 before taxes. OK. So $2400 a day. OK.
Yeah. Yeah. I live like two hours from Dallas. So it's like pretty good for here.
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Call 800-356-4282 or go to Zander.com. Where's your family, honey? My dad lives in a motel about an hour away, and my mom lives in Missouri. And she lives off the government.
So she's not very. OK. Are you plugged into a church there in your community? Yes.
I want you to sit down with a pastor in the next three days, and ask them for some help to get you out of there. OK. And that's not to pay off your debt. I think we need to do two things.
You may need to move to a more metro area where you can get a better job. But you can't stay there. You can't stay there another two weeks. I want you out of that house.
OK. OK. No, you stop. Whoa, whoa, whoa, you didn't hear me.
You just drove right past that. And I saw your brake lights as you went around the corner. OK. I'm telling you, you've been putting this off, and you know the situation that you're in is evil and wrong, and you need to leave.
Do you hear me, daughter? Yes. Get out of there now. And don't talk to me about I'm going to trade my safety and my mental health for a freaking car.
Get in the car and drive to Dallas and get a job. Get in the car and talk to your pastor this week and get some help to get out of this situation. Because he has stolen your confidence. Yeah.
Yeah. You're right. Almost like I've done this before, haven't I? Yeah.
OK. Your dad's in a hotel. Your mom's on government. So you've got nobody in your corner that's telling you you're a champion.
And I'm telling you, you're a champion. And you deserve better than you're getting. OK. OK.
You've never seen anybody in your family win, and you're going to be the first one that goes and wins. You're going to go do something, OK? I want to hear a hero story about you from you six months from today. That you're making $25, $30 an hour.
You're standing alone with your shoulders, square, and your chest stuck out with pride. And the debt is gone, and you're getting control of your life, OK? OK. You can't sit in this cesspool anymore.
You're sitting in sewage. Do you smell it? Yeah. I smell it from over here.
Yeah. You don't need this guy to win. You don't need him. And he's become this weird support system for you that he's abused and manipulated.
And so you've got to make a clean break. I'm with Dave. Clean break. Go see a pastor in the neighborhood right now.
And a loving pastor at a good church in your neighborhood will take care of you, honey. And they'll get you set up and get you out of there. And then help you get the next steps into a better position, making more money, how much you're working more than 40 hours, and how much you're making $25, $30 an hour, and you can clean up this mess, and you can create a sustainable life. Stand alone on your own.
You are a warrior princess. It's time you act like it. It's time you go be the champion God designed you to be right now. And this has got to change, kid.
And it's not going to change until you change it. It's not going to change until you believe what I'm telling you is to be true, that you are worth being treated well. You're worth it. And so you need to go get yourself in a position where everyone that looks at you says, this woman demands that I treat her well.
She's a warrior princess and she won't tolerate anything else. And that's who you're becoming as I speak right now. That's who you're becoming. And you've got to go do that.
And you've got to go do it now. You hang on, Christian will pick up. And we'll find out the little town that you're in and see if we've got some connections there with some local pastors. And we'll help you get connected with one of them and get some people in your corner that aren't the kind that you currently have in your corner.
You need a different crew, kiddo. Wow, what a mess. Open phones here at AAA 825-525. Ken, it is hokey as it can be, but this idea of what you believe matters more than the actual reality.
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