Getting Discomfortable With Shame | A.J. Bond ~ ATTMind 162

A.J. Bond—author of Discomfortable: What Is Shame and How Can We Break Its Hold—joins us on Adventures Through The Mind to talk about what shame is, what it feels like, and how it impacts our sense of self and perception of the world. We also talk about healthy vs unhealthy shame; internal vs. external shame; attachment styles and shame's link to our developmental past and early relationship with our parents; intimacy and how shame hinders our ability to truly connect with others; unconditional love and ayahuasca's impact on AJ's healing through shame; and, of course, how to navigate shame in a way that supports healing the wounds around which our shame directs us. ... For links to A.J.'s work, full show notes, and a link to watch this episode in video, head to bit.ly/ATTMind162 *** FULL TOPICS BREAKDOWN BELOW *** ... This episode is sponsored by Maps of the Mind and their upcoming workshop Facilitating Psychedelic Experiences, happening on Saturday, July 2nd More details can be found here: mapsofthemind.com/facilitating-psychedelic-experiences-workshop/ Use discount code JESSO40 in the section that says 'have a coupon' to get a ticket for £40 ... SUPPORT THE PODCAST Patreon: https://patreon.com/jameswjesso Paypal Donation: https://www.paypal.com/biz/fund?id=383635S3BKJVS Merchandise:  https://www.jameswjesso.com/shop/ More Options: https://www.jameswjesso.com/support Newsletter:  https://www.jameswjesso.com/newsletter *** Extra BIG thanks to my patrons on Patreon for helping keep this podcast alive! Especially my $23+ patrons, Andreas D, Clea S, Joe A, Ian C, Yvette FC, Chuck W, Alex F, Eliz C, Nathan B, Nick M, & Chloe C ***** Episode Breakdown (0:00) Opening | Ad for upcoming workshop sponsoring this video (6:01) Interview Begins (6:31) Why shame is an important topic for psychedelic culture (8:31) Shame: what it is and what its made of (11:57) The affect of shame (13:34) Shame as an evolutionary survival adaptation  (21:07 ) Healthy vs. unhealthy shame (24:30) Internal vs. external Shame (27:58) Narcissism, canceling, and toxic shame (34:35) Shame's link to our developmental past and early relationship with our parents (40:01) Healing the past to liberate ourselves from unhealthy shame | getting discomfortable with shame (46:18) Why how we do a thing matters as much as the thing we do (51:58) Bringing our shame healing/liberation to a systemic level (55:40) All the ways shame will weave itself into your healing (57:32) Intimacy and how shame hinders our ability to truly connect with others (58:18) Connection and relationship is essential components of our healing  (1:05:07 ) Unconditional love and ayahuasca's impact on AJ's healing through shame (1:11:59) Develop a meta-scaffolding that allows us to be with our reactivity in a healthy way (1:14:06) Some basic steps for navigating shame (1:18:26) Follow-up and social links (1:20:41) Outro | Info about workshop sponsoring this video ***** SUPPORT THE PODCAST Patreon: https://patreon.com/jameswjesso Paypal Donation: https://www.paypal.com/biz/fund?id=383635S3BKJVS Merchandise:  https://www.jameswjesso.com/shop/ More Options: https://www.jameswjesso.com/support Newsletter:  https://www.jameswjesso.com/newsletter OR you can buy a copy of one of my books! Decomposing The Shadow: Lessons From The Psilocybin Mushroom – https://www.jameswjesso.com/decomposing-the-shadow/ The True Light Of Darkness — https://www.jameswjesso.com/true-light-darkness/