Getting it Backwards in Family Court—Winners & Losers

Sometimes professionals in the legal system get it backwards. It’s frustrating and leaves people feeling helpless. Why can’t the judge see what the other party is doing? Why is my ex’s lawyer painting him/her out to be a hero, convincing everyone in the courtroom that I’m the bad parent?Do professionals get it backwards and believe the wrong person sometimes?Bill and Megan discuss this important topic, including:is this a high conflict issuewhat is a persuasive blamercan persuasive blamers influence the court’s decisionsdo persuasive blamers honestly believe the false statements they make or that they are victimscognitive distortions that lead to persuasive blamingdo they have personality disorderswhy professionals believe persuasive blamers—can professionals get emotionally hookedexamples: domestic violence, alienation, emotionally too intensehow to overcome this in court—what can parents dowhat can professionals doLinks & Other NotesBOOKSHigh Conflict People in Legal DisputesSplitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality DisorderARTICLESFamily Law: 3 Theories of the High-Conflict CaseSix Ways You Should Be Assertive in Family CourtOur website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:32) - Family Court – Getting It Backwards (05:29) - Why do HCPs do this? (08:52) - Why are they believed? (12:30) - Examples (16:53) - How to Overcome (18:12) - Three Theories (21:56) - Tips to Help (25:39) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Telling a High Conflict Spouse You Want a Divorce