Getting Your Needs Met: Shifting from Codependency and Hyper-Independence to Interdependence

We all have needs. But what happens when we stop listening to them, or never learned how to in the first place? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah gently guides us through the heart of relational healing: learning how to get our needs met.With tenderness and clarity, she unpacks how early attachment wounds shape our ability to express, feel, or even recognize our needs, leading many of us into cycles of codependency, hyper-independence, or invisible exhaustion. From the helpers who give too much to the ones who learned to stay small and silent, Sarah explores the nervous system patterns that keep us stuck in survival, disconnected from true intimacy.Through the lens of somatics and parts work, she introduces a compassionate roadmap toward interdependence: a relational experience where we can be fully ourselves and fully connected. It's not about being needy, it’s about being human.Episode Highlights00:00 Intro00:15 We All Have Needs03:25 Understanding Codependency08:42 Different Roles of Codependency12:41 Hyper-Independence20:31 Unseen and Unknown22:07 Interdependence26:10 Getting Your Needs Met39:33 Question #1 - How to Reshape the Nervous System48:08 Question #2 - Hypervigilant Younger Parts with Deep Wounding57:15 Question #3 - Loving Inquiry01:04:49 Question #4 - Young Part Bargain   Get on the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation! If you’re wanting practical tools and live support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week live program.All waitlisters get access to limited-time reduced pricing. Click the link below to learn more. https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlistConnect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast