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EPISODE · Mar 14, 2026 · 37 MIN

Ghosting, Loud & Wrong Friends, and Dating Drama

from Shady and Safe · host Q and Brandi Lane

This episode gets real as we talk about the messy realities of friendship, dating, and navigating life as Black queer men.Topics we get into:• Why people hate when friends fall out and make up• The unspoken rules of Black queer culture• Ghosting — toxic behavior or just modern dating?• Would you defend a friend who is loud and wrong?• Should friends split the bill or just take turns paying?• Dating your friend’s ex — is it ever okay?• Is it weird to have a hierarchy in your friend group?And of course… plenty of shady stories along the way.

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