Give Less F*cks, Have More Fun: Healing & Learning to Stop Shrinking Myself

In this deeply personal bonus solo episode of Shedding the Shame, host Tami Wong opens up about her current experience with EMDR therapy, living with CPTSD, and what it really looks like to heal from abandonment wounds, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and years of staying small to keep others comfortable.She shares why she finally decided to start EMDR, what the process has actually been like emotionally, and how therapy continues to challenge and transform her after years of doing inner work. From difficult dreams and grief, to learning how to let herself be silly again, this episode is an honest conversation about mental health, resilience, and reclaiming the parts of ourselves we were taught to hide.Tami also talks about:The emotional exhaustion and breakthroughs that can come with trauma therapyHow childhood experiences shape perfectionism and fear of abandonmentWhy people-pleasing no longer serves herGrieving relationships, loss, and the pressure to appear “okay”Learning to trust herself and take up space unapologeticallyThe importance of safe relationships, therapy, and emotional honestyWhy her motto for 45 is: give less f*cks and have more funIf you’ve ever struggled with feeling “too much,” not enough, or afraid to fully be yourself, let this episode remind you that healing is possible and you are not alone.