Golden Globe Winner Meg Tilly, First Responder and Author James Meuer, and GildaGram with Dr. Gilda Carle

This edition of The Neil Haley Show opens with a conversation with Golden Globe-winning actress Meg Tilly about the Netflix film War Machine. Tilly first reflected on growing up in a big blended family of twelve, where her sister Jennifer Tilly broadened everyone's horizons, writing plays for the kids to act out and dreaming grandly enough to show them there was a whole world for the taking. A dancer who had performed on the series Fame, Meg fractured her back and could no longer dance, and, with dyslexia making the era's fallback jobs impractical, realized acting was something she had done her whole life. Jennifer let her crash in her Los Angeles apartment and showed her the ropes. In War Machine, a layered satire from director David Michod, Tilly plays Gene McMahon, the wife of Brad Pitt's four-star general. She spoke about portraying the quiet strength and loneliness of a military spouse who raises a child largely alone while her husband serves, and about the film's deeper reckoning with the human and political cost of war, where every action, like a pebble dropped in a lake, sends ripples outward. Praising Michod's talent and Netflix's craftsmanship, she said it is the rare film that rewards a second viewing and leaves audiences knowing a little more than before, and predicted it would spark strong reactions, which she welcomed. Now also a published novelist, she said she felt blessed to have played her part in it.Neil then welcomed James Meuer, a longtime first responder and author of Damaged: A First Responder's Experiences Handling Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Meuer described PTSD not as a weakness but as a normal response to abnormal events, explaining how the brain refuses to let go of what it has seen, surfacing as anger, hypervigilance, sleeplessness, and flashbacks that can be triggered by something as small as a dog barking, and how the culture of being ten feet tall and bulletproof keeps too many from admitting they are struggling. Over a career from 1986 to 2011, he said, the hardest calls involved children, and the one that haunted him most, a young girl he writes about in the book's first chapter, stayed with him for decades. Years later he found her memorial online and left a note, and her mother reached out, a reconnection that finally lifted a guilt he had carried and brought him peace. He was candid that for years he had stuffed every difficult call into a backpack he never unloaded, until it finally broke him, and that counseling, friends, and simply talking things through were what turned it around. His message throughout was that the hardest and most important step is asking for help and talking about it, that first responders are human, and that healing is possible.The hour closes with two GildaGram simulcasts featuring Dr. Gilda Carle. In one, she explored the growing phenomenon known as living apart together, couples who sleep in separate bedrooms, or even keep separate homes, and report happier, stronger marriages, sharing the story of a woman who has thrived doing so for twenty-five years. In the other, she reacted to an article about adult children pressing wealthy parents to buy them homes and bankroll their lifestyles, sharing one father's insistence that his children first learn to earn so that whatever they build rests on firm ground rather than sand. She used it to champion self-reliance and to argue, drawing on her own lean early years, that the closest bonds are often forged while building something together from nothing, and offered pointed commentary on a culture of entitlement. Find Meg Tilly's War Machine on Netflix and James Meuer's Damaged wherever books are sold.