Good Grief

Grief isn’t something to be fixed or gotten rid of. To deny our grief is to deny our humanity. The best we can ever do for others in their grief is just be there, to manifest the love that refuses to let them go. And the best we can ever do when we experience grief is exactly that - experience it. Weep and be angry and let it happen. Because that’s what Jesus does. Jesus, knowing full and well that he can make all well, still weeps at the grave of his friend. And it’s not just the tears, Jesus gets angry in his grief. There is nothing in this life that we experience that is beyond God’s knowledge. God knows our sorrow and our grief and our anger. When Jesus raises his clenched fist, when he lets the tears go, he does so with every person who has ever known loss. It's as the old hymn says: What a friend we have in Jesus, all our sins and griefs to bear! Can we find a friend so faithful who will all our sorrows share. Jesus grieves, and Jesus grieves with us.