Good Sex, Bad Pressure: Why Expectations Are Killing Desire

What if the biggest thing standing in the way of better sex… isn’t desire - but pressure?In this episode of In Session with Clarinda, I’m joined by Registered Psychotherapist Victoria Sabo for an honest, grounded conversation about the expectations we carry around sex and how those expectations quietly erode pleasure, connection, and confidence.We explore:What “good sex” actually means (and who decided that standard)How performance pressure and perfectionism show up in the bedroomSexual scripts that limit pleasureWhy sex can start to feel like a chore in long-term relationshipsSpontaneous vs. responsive desireHow resentment, emotional safety, and couple dynamics shape intimacyIf you’ve ever wondered why sex feels harder than it “should,” why desire fluctuates, or why intimacy sometimes feels loaded instead of connecting - this conversation is for you.