Grace and Grit: When to Pivot, When to Persevere

Have you ever set a goal that felt awesome at first, but a few weeks in, you either wanted to quit, or beat yourself up for even thinking about quitting? Have you quit on that goal or another decision and wished you hadn't, or quit or changed and been glad you have? How do we know when to offer ourselves grace and when to dig in and have some grit? This has come up a few times in some coaching sessions, and I see it in myself, so it would be something many of you could relate to.   Grace is having the wisdom to know when it's time to change course or pivot; however, there can be times when we offer ourselves too much grace and make no progress forward because we don't work through the hard.   Grit is when we push through the hard, dig deep, go for the goal in the end, and persevere. Again, however, this can get to the point where it is harmful and does more harm than good, adding stress that takes us beyond our tipping point and causing bodily symptoms.   In both cases, our brain begins to join in the fun.  The part of us that is self-critical and self-sabotaging.  The "self-critical snake." In both cases, there is also an option to combine with our "Compassion Companion."  One drains you. The other carries you forward. The real question is: which one are you going to listen to on your journey? Listen in to find out more about our two friends, and whether you choose Grace or Grit, you can always have compassion come along.