Gratefulness Through Recovery with Laeti Decarufel

**Trigger warning: This episode discusses eating disorders and recovery. If you can relate to the situation in this episode, please reach out to professional help. Jgo speaks with TikTok self love advocate, Laeti Decarufel, about her self love journey.  Connect with Laeti Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laetdecaru/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@laetdecaru?lang=en Merch: https://sunflowersmerch.com    Connect with Jordan: @JGoFitLife https://www.instagram.com/jgofitlife Apply to be a part of J.Go's Body Confident Blueprint coaching program: https://www.jgofitlife.com/bcb   In this Episode: Meet Laeti: - Currently a law student and Self Love Advocate - She began posting her ED recovery journey on TikTok in May 2020 - Her platform is about being kind to ourselves and letting our emotions in   Her Personal Journey: - When she was younger, she was teased for her weight and continued to think negatively about herself even after the bullying stopped.  - She developed an eating disorder and felt like her life was on pause  - When she was diagnosed, she was afraid to get better because that would mean gaining weight. - She relapsed at the beginning of quarantine, and tried a diet that was so bad for her body that she decided she was done punishing herself.   - Her dad helped her get off the diet and she decided to start posting on TikTok   What would you say to someone who is going through something similar?  - Surround yourself with love. It's hard to love yourself if you're not surrounded by love - Just because you don't look like you're "starving", you can still have an eating disorder. Some people aren't believed or get support because they don't "look the part".  - ** If you can relate to this, reach out and get help from a professional   What have you done that you're really proud of yourself of?  - When she gets caught in comparison, she stops herself. She tries to be happy for them, and if it's too hard that day, she'll put her phone away. - She's learned that one day she'll reach her goals, and it's OK to feel happy for other people along the way.  - When we're aware of our "inner mean girl", we can stop her from influencing our lives - She's learned to lean into her truth and people are gravitating towards that.  - She's becoming more relaxed in her journey thinking, "I'll get there when I get there."   Is there anything else that has helped along her journey? - One thing we have control over is what we feed our brains (social media) - If you're following someone only because she's prettier than you or your motivation for "weight loss" you should unfollow them. - Try to minimize your phone time so you can be more present in your time.    Any other changes or shifts in her mindset? - She decided to practice gratitude for her body -- Be grateful that it digests and blinks without you having to think about it. Maybe someday you'll be able to feel grateful for the parts of yourself that you "don't like" right now.  - People use exercise as a way to punish their bodies. It's important to reframe that mindset. You exercise because you like to move, not to get smaller.  - J.Go helps her clients with their "automatic negative thoughts" Share your biggest takeaway from this episode with Jordan @jgofitlife